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John
Mack, President of the Los Angeles Urban League, participated in
the 1998 Leadership Dialogue. |
Dialogue is collaborative:
two or more sides work together toward common understanding.
Debate
is oppositional: two sides oppose each other and attempt to prove each
other wrong.
In dialogue, finding common ground is
the goal. In debate, winning
is the goal.
In dialogue, one listens to the other
side(s) in order to understand, find meaning, and find agreement.
In debate, one listens to the other side in order to find flaws and
to counter its arguments.
Dialogue enlarges and possibly changes
a participant's point of view. Debate affirms a participant's own
point of view.
Dialogue reveals assumptions for reevaluation.
Debate defends assumptions as truth.
Dialogue causes introspection on one's
own position. Debate causes critique of the other position.
Dialogue opens the possibility of reaching
a better solution than any of the original solutions. Debate defends
one's own positions as the best solution and excludes other solutions.
Dialogue creates an open-minded attitude:
an openness to being wrong and an openness to change. Debate creates
a closed-minded attitude, a determination to be right.
In dialogue, one submits one's best
thinking, knowing that other peoples' reflections will help improve
it rather than destroy it. In debate, one submits one's best thinking
and defends it against challenge to show that it is right.
Dialogue calls for temporarily suspending
one's beliefs. Debate calls for investing wholeheartedly in one's
beliefs.
In dialogue one searches for basic agreements.
In debate, one searches for glaring differences.
In dialogue, one searches for strengths
in the other positions. In debate , one searches for flaws and weaknesses
in the other position.
Dialogue involves a real concern for
the other person and seeks to not alienate or offend. Debate involves
a countering of the other position without focusing on feelings or relationship
and often belittles or depreciates the other person.
Dialogue assumes that many people have
pieces of the answer and that together they can put them into a workable
solution. Debate assumes that there is a right answer and that someone
has it.
Dialogue remains open-ended. Debate
implies a conclusion.
Adapted from a paper prepared by Shelly
Berman which was based on discussions of the Dialogue Group of the Boston
Chapter of Educators for Social Responsibility (ESR). Other members
included Lucile Burt, Dick Mayo-Smith, Lally Stowell, and Gene Thompson.
From Study Circles Resource Center, A Guide to Training Study Circle
Leaders.
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